You can't give what you don't have!
Today I am going to talk about something very personal and I am sharing these blogs to help anyone who is going through the same thing I did; and learn to do what I do, thanks to many emotional intelligence classes this stage of my life is a thing of the past.
Let's take a second to look at this tree and its surroundings. I want you to imagine all these torn branches and trunks on the ground as "words."
Now you might say or ask yourself or Mitzy might ask, "What the heck are you talking about?"
Let me explain:
Words are so powerful that they can do good and raise a thousand soldiers from a battle to continue in a war, but they can also destroy someone's self-esteem to the point of suicide.
The reason I use this tree as an example is because trees have an incredible ability to recover from storm damage.
I've weathered many storms in my life, but I'm still here. Just like a tree.
Trees basically go through everything we go through as human beings, but if we look at them carefully and learn to see and listen to them, we will learn a valid lesson.
When looking for the life and damage of a tree. I will make the comparison as if I were a doctor speaking to a patient: When a tree is no longer functional or there is rot in the inner core of the trunk or structural weakness in the branching patterns that can cause a split trunk, the equivalent of this occurrence is known as if the tree has a heart attack. The wounds are too large to heal and the tree has lost its lifeline of sap between roots and leaves. This is diagnosed as if “This tree is almost dead.”
On May 26th my father would have been dead for 12 years. I lost my father many years ago and I know he would be very happy with my accomplishments. I can't say the same for some of the people around me. In this world we live in, I have encountered many emotional oppositions and although I am a fighter, like many reading this blog you know that words really do try to trap us. I was once tried to trap myself and it takes a great deal of mental discipline to push those thoughts away even though those sayings, opinions or comments cause a kind of itch in your body and sometimes even a very piercing pain in your heart...but then I told myself, "People are so hurt and broken these days, you can't blame them because they can't give what they don't have, so don't take it personally and move on."
Trees need nutrients, sunlight, water, air and space. The availability of some basic resources can be limited, so trees compete with each other to meet their needs.
HOW AMAZING! Don't you think it's extremely crazy that we also need nutrients, sunlight, water, air and space and the availability of some of our basic resources can also be limited at many times and we as human beings also compete with each other to satisfy our needs?
There is just one particular observation about humans and life. Life does not respond to need. You cannot go to the soil and say, “I need a harvest.” The soil will say, “Don’t bring me your seed, bring me some effort, bring me some discipline, bring me an idea or a plan, bring me these things and I will multiply you many times over.”
Today I was talking to a friend named Anna and we talked about the emotional breakdown of human beings and how people are misunderstood for the way they act and because we want others to understand us, but have we ever stopped to put ourselves in the feelings of the other person, to try to know why they act the way they do?
You might say, "It's not my problem what they do, much less understanding them. That's their problem, not mine.
But after that long talk, I felt like I was still missing something to get this writing completed which: (it is one of 7 drafts I set out to finish by Monday 1/22/2024) . I opened my WhatsApp and another friend Rolando sent me something that brought this writing to its full circle. When we take the time to grow a tree or plant and take the dedication to make sure it gets the right amount of sun and water, replant it and set out to give it what it needs; we notice that we reap what we sow.
He sent me a beautiful REEL about the benefits of understanding that what you give will come back to you. We should never tire of doing good because in time we will reap what we sow. If we don't give up! Life is not about luck. You should not ask for what you do not give. If you do not give love, do not expect love to be given to you, do not demand what you do not give, you will only reap what you have sown, it is important to cultivate humility and learn that we are not better than anyone else. Start appreciating others for who they are, not for their appearances. He who gives without expecting anything in return will one day be rewarded with abundance. Remember that everything you do to others is as if you were doing it to yourself.
If you sow work, you will reap success.
If you sow love, you will reap happiness.
But if you sow the wind, you will reap the whirlwind.
If you want something to happen, do everything in your power to make it happen.
You don't grow when things become easy, but when the challenges increase.
Remember (as the reel they sent me said) "He who does not live to serve is not fit to live"
I was a person who always saw the negative in everything and it took me a long time to retrain my mind and reformat my way of thinking. I work on myself every day and strive to be better and I am humble enough to give or help without expecting anything in return; because life has given me a lot.
Like a tree: you have to come with seeds, you have to come with skill, you have to be willing to learn, to change, to grow, willing to face the bad weather, willing to pull a green fruit from the weeds of what is life, people, comments, and decide to be willing to grow and to grow. That is the only way you get a return and progress in this cycle called life.
I'm lucky to have friends and sisters and girlfriends that I can go to when the going gets tough... But the first person I talk to is myself!
REMEMBER
Don't let anyone dictate your future! The decision of what happens in your life is only yours.
Mitzy Coreano 1/20/2024
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